WIll you be my friend?

While we may never know the true motive of the killer, many find it convenient to attach the label of "loner" to Cho Seung-Hui.

We feel it might help us to understand just a little about how someone could do something so horrific.

But you have to wonder just how much we can ever know about a "loner" and whether he was truly lonely or not.

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When you ask someone how many friends they have the answer of course depends on who you ask and how old they are.

If you ask your grandparents they may have a list of people who they've known for a number of years, if not decades.

If you ask your parents, they will have a lot of people they've known either since childhood or over a number of years.

But if you were to ask me, I could show you a list of contacts on MSN, Skype, Yahoo, different email accounts and people I know through work. This doesn't even include the websites designed to reunite past shoolmates or online dating.

I literally have more friends than I can remember.

But I don't spend a lot of time going to parties , meeting for dinner or going to nightclubs. I tend to spend most of my time at home. You might even call me a bit of a "loner".

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While Cho Seung-Hui will forever remain a mystery to so many people, it's too convenient to attach a label and use this to help explain his motives for doing what he did.

At best it will misrepresent the life he truly led and at worst it may prevent us from ever being able to understand what truly led him to kill so many people or help prevent it from ever happening again.